(っ◔◡◔)っ ♥ personal Value dictionary ♥

You are welcome to share your thoughts and feelings about other things going on in your life.

Only if you want to share ofc! Just that, there is no leave it at the door policy.

Expecting u 2 b a person, so feel free to b urself. Or whoever you are, as you go through being-ness.

Always feel free to say 【Ｎｏ】

Sometimes, I want things to happen. But they don't have to. Please say no, set some boundaries, whatever makes you feel comfortable!

Its important to me that we all feel comfy and cute in our relations. And often, I don't know others don't feel that way unless they say it out loud. Please say no, or change the direction of conversations/ideas, etc, whenever you want!

Quite Genuinely. I cannot read minds.

And on the occasions I have tried, or have assumed I could, I am usually proven wrong.

Please just tell me what you want, or what you are thinking / hoping for. We can talk it out!! And like, prevent misunderstandings!!

Sometimes, if we stop seeing each other, or working on a project, I can forget to check in and stay in touch.

Rest assured I am thinking of you fondly, and probably would be super duper happy to see you again.

I would like to chit chat all the time, but I tend towards being a hermit, often needing lots of space and solo time. Something I am hoping to figure out, because I do enjoy having close relationships with collaborators.

I am great in short bursts, an emergency, to problem solve quickly on a single thing or project.

I am not so great at long term admin, weekly meetings or on-going commitment.

I have a slightly increased capacity for this type of work if it is paid, especially in the realm of facilitation or stewarding programming, education, events series. But in general, anything that takes away from my unstructured free time needs to have a clear scope and expectations.

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I enjoy sharing what I know. Usually, I've learnt things through a mix of personal, professional, academic experiences. But there's a really good chance that what I have learnt might not work for you, or even match up with your experiences or expectations.

That's ok!

Take what u need :)) Change things as you see fit, etc.

💭 tbh, I might enjoy a credit, or source link if its from a work product, but otherwise go nuts

As in, Is this the most loving decision?

There are so many complicated structures we live under. Whether it's capitalism's requirement for us to work to survive, or our body's requirement for nourishment. There's a lot to parse.I try to think about things from the context of love.

In community, I ask: Is the work we are doing truly loving and respecting those we serve? In my relations, I ask: Are we feeling supported and cared for in the way we are functioning together?

With my cat, I often ask: Am I respecting their need for Autonomy, Connection and Nourishment?

Love is a bit of an abstract concept, but I find it makes a lot of decisions clearer when we (I?) use love as the compass. For me, to love means to respect autonomy, to have access to resources, to feel empowered in our relationships to ourselves, each other, and to the structures of knowledge we live under.